What makes a woman empowered?

As a woman especially those of us that lead a business we have this urge to feel empowered and to position ourselves firmly. 

What makes a woman feel empowered is different for all women.

So in this post, I’ll cover how can you feel empowered as a woman, what does it mean to be empowered, what empowers you as a woman, and more.

Keep reading. 

What does it mean to be empowered?

When I searched on Google what does it mean to be empowered, here is what I found. 

Personal empowerment is about taking control of your own life and making positive decisions based on what you want. It’s closely linked to attributes like self-esteem and self-confidence, but true empowerment comes when you convert intention into action.

But what does that mean for you?  

It’s about setting high standards for yourself, setting boundaries from the begging to position yourself firmly. 

It’s also about building up your self-confidence from the get-go, empowerment should make you feel in control and not self-controlled. 

How does it feel to be empowered?

For some women, this comes easy, as for other women it can be quite hard to build that feeling of empowerment. 

Feeling empowered comes from:

• Making your own decision
• Control your life
• Own your words
• Setting boundaries 
• Becoming authoritative

There is more that can be added to the list but generally this what feels to be empowered. 

Since you now know what does it mean to be empowered? What does it feel like? 

Let’s talk about the 5 types of empowerment.

What are the 5 types of empowerment? And How can a woman feel empowered?

There are general 5 types of empowerment 

1- Local level 

2- Career level 

3- Family level

4- Marriage level

5- Personal level

And let’s discuss each one in a brief description 

1- Local level 

It means the power you have in your social circle. This means do you run events in your community? Do you donate often? 

Do you volunteer around?

All these contribute to your empowerment.

2- Career Level

How do you run your business?  Which place are you at in your career?

Feeling empowered in your career is one of the most challenging things because we tend to critique ourselves and compare ourselves to the competition. 

When you are empowered, competition and others related items in career advancement tend to not be the biggest concern anymore. 

The hardest part is that there are lots of competition but ideally when you are empowered in this field everything becomes easy.

3- Family Level

Being a successful woman means that you have balance in all levels.

And if you learn anything from successful women out there, they often have high empowerment within their family. 

Don’t worry if you don’t have support from your family.

 Family can be very important to some and to others who don’t have family support it can be challenging. Plenty have turned friends and support systems into their self-made version of what they call family.

Be sure to nurture those around you such as your parents, siblings, grandparents, and any other relationships that are important to you. 

4- Marriage Level

Some women feel empowered in their marriage life and some just don’t. But if you want to feel empowered in your marriage life you should always have self-esteem and have firm relationship boundaries. 

If you put these in place you will remain true to self and speak up and not rely on your husband to feel validate. Setting boundaries allows to have independence within your marriage 

5- Personal Level 

If you want to start feeling empowered then start to focus on personal empowerment.

Personal level empowerment comes from self-confidence, self-esteem, and setting a high value for yourself.  

Now that we covered the 5 types of empowerment and how you as a woman can feel empowered, let’s move on to something that will tie this whole thing together.

How to empower yourself as a woman?

Again this comes easy for some women but here are 9 ways to empower yourself when you need that additional motivation 

1- Get coached

If you’re gonna take away something from this post, take this one.

Sometimes women feel like they should do it on their own but the truth is you don’t have to at all.

You can hire a coach to help you with many things, in your career, marriage, personal life, and more. 

2- Don’t be afraid 

Put yourself out there, don’t be afraid to show your true self. As a woman, we get this feeling of shame to express ourselves but if you want to empower yourself you need to express yourself more often. 

3- Learn and educate 

Have you heard that you get to learn twice if you teach? Well, this should be one way to empower yourself. 

Expand your knowledge in one area at a time, teach it to those around you to make yourself feel more authoritative.

Finish your school education or advance training if you haven’t done it already. There are so many ways that you can learn and educate. 

3- Stick to your beliefs 

We are made of what we believe in and if from time to time you change your beliefs it’s gonna be hard to be self-empowered.

But that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t change your belief often but it means to adjust what’s truly valuable to you and what needs to be changed.

If you believe in something that is conservational stick to it, stand up for it. Explain your motive behind that belief.

 But in none aggressive way, you should be firm when you stand up to your beliefs.

This will guarantee you empowerment and the feeling to be empowered. 

4- Become a leader

One way to empower yourself is to become a leader yourself and this doesn’t mean to do anything crazy at the beginning. But it can be as simple as running charity work in your neighborhood.

You can also run a monthly “meeting” in your neighborhood of things that can be changed.

If you think enough outside the box you’ll find so many ways that you can become a leader.

5- Say No  

If you want to feel empowered one way to do that is to say no.

And we all know saying no can be a hassle or the feeling of guilt arises but hey empowered women don’t feel guilty when setting up boundaries.

If you struggle to say no often ask yourself this question what would I love? If I say yes how will this affect me directly? 

This literally can change the game for you without feeling guilty or coming off offensive. 

6- Practice feeling it

I’m not saying here that you should fake it till you make it cause with this type of work because this just doesn’t work. 

What you can do instead is to practice with yourself starting with thinking positive, things like:

I feel empowered through this work

Every time I do XYZ I feel empowered.

I am me I love myself it is a great feeling to be empowered. These positive affirmations will begin to help you change your mindset.

Practice saying that to yourself every day and see how you’ll show up and begin to see changes in your life.

7- Change your mentality 

Change your thoughts about what you believe society has taught you about women, if your society does put women under a pedestal it can be hard for you to position yourself to feel empowered.

This is why it’s important to remove negative thinking and reframe how you think. Society can put so much pressure on women to look a certain way or to think a certain way. Keep your eye on the prize and limit your social media use.

8- Surround yourself 

I believe that the 5 most people you spend your time with is who you are on the inside. 

If you spend your time with women who always seem to dwell on themselves you’ll have a hard time expressing yourself.

It might be hard to walk away from such people, but you can expand your reach and find ways to find women who want to feel empowered as much as you do.  

You can find women alike through blog posts and you can choose to hang out with your nearest empowered woman.

There are tons of ways to meet different who feel just like you. Check out Facebook groups, meet up, local women’s groups, or even niche-specific groups like public speaking groups, etc.

9- Do your part

Just like you want to be treated equally you yourself mustn’t dwell or shame other women. 

And to be honest all of us fall in this trap, where we shame other women. 

But this doesn’t mean you address women who need to be addressed.

It can simply mean to compliment your coworkers about anything that you feel they put enough effort into it. 

If one of your coworkers always tries to save the day you can compliment her about that. 

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Final Note

If you decided to take at least a few points from this post, you will be in a much different place than you were before reading. 

Feeling empowered as a woman can be intimidating at first but once you get the hang of it, you’ll thank yourself when you look back. 

Feel free to sign up for our newsletter to share your story and listen to other women’s stories of their journey. 

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How mental health was perceived in the past?

We often underestimate how deeply our world is affected by Mental illness.

 Mental illness has been around since the beginning of time. Ages ago many would say that if someone was mentally ill that they were “mad” or even “ possessed by spirits”. 

Back in the day around the 1930’s many were treated with Electroconvulsive therapy.  You may know Electroconvulsive therapy as “shock therapy”.

 Before that, in the mid-1800s the mentally ill would essentially be sedated or restrained in overcrowded asylums. 

The majority of the schools of thought also came from back in the early 1800s & 1900s. 

Mental Health History 

Now I promise not to turn this blog post into a history lesson but the back story on psychology as a whole is a very interesting one.

(Please pinky swear you will go and read some information about the etiology of mental health and psychology) 

There are probably a few things that you may have a misconception about when it comes to mental health.

 It’s my goal to dispel some of the beliefs and share how much mental health has grown over the years. 

 We are beginning to speak about mental health now like it is a priority. It should have always been a priority but we can’t do much to change the past right.

 It is a priority of mine and I will explain exactly why you should make it a priority of yours too whether you suffer from mental illness or not.

What You Should Know About Mental Health?

Have you ever found yourself calling another person crazy, because they may have done something that wasn’t what you considered normal? 

 You know stuff like walking down the street with no clothes on or fighting the air? 

 We have all seen it right? Maybe in real life or perhaps on television. 

What Kind of Movies That Talk About Mental Health?

 Many movies like Sybil, Girl Interrupted, Beautiful mind, etc… display characters who suffer from mental illness.

 You may have watched the movies for mere entertainment……or you could have finished the movies with a plethora of questions that went unanswered. 

The first time you may have experienced some form of someone with mental illness, you may have been fairly young.  

Young enough to know that something was different but also young enough not to understand what that could have meant. 

 Sometimes parents could have it explained as “ don’t mind her/him she’s just special!  Well, we are special right!

 I mean what does “special” even mean?  I’m going to venture to guess that whatever information you did receive about mental illness it was probably not a very detailed one. 

What do you need to do?

So, whatever your belief was about mental health back then you more than likely have some of those same beliefs now in 2020. 

 Now don’t beat yourself up we all have been misinformed on many things. Being misinformed doesn’t make us bad people.

 The fact that you are reading this allows me to know that you want to clear up any misconceptions and you’re ready to share what you learn with others right?

Let’s Dive in a little and come to an understanding of what mental illness really is.

What is mental illness? (Glad you asked)

Now that we’ve pretty much accepted that the definition you have about mental health is not the best one let’s clear it up. 

Mental Health Definition 

Mental Illness is a wide range of conditions that affect mood, thinking, and behaviors.  so you may be thinking to yourself so that sounds a lot like what happens when you use drugs. 

 Well, you right! drugs can also affect your mood, thinking, and behaviors.

 Generally, people who have substance use disorders along with mental health disorders are diagnosed as having a co-occurring.  

You may also here is sometimes called a dual or substance disorder which includes alcohol or drug abuse.  

Where did mental illness Even come from?

This is probably the most asked question related to mental illness.

  There are different beliefs about why people have a mental illness.

  There have been multiple studies on changes in the brain, changes in chemical imbalances and you can read a few of the studies that I follow actively here. 

As well as well-respected researchers around the world who have dedicated the majority of their lives to finding a breakthrough on mental illness.

 Others may argue that it was passed down by a family member.

You can learn the diagnosis who are believed to have genetic components here. 

 Mental Health Matters because mental illness can be a part of your family for generations to come.

What affects mental health?

Below I will share a list of studies that have been shown to have genetic components. Scientists have recognized that the following psychiatric disorders tend to run in families according to the National Institutes of Health. (www.nih.gov)

 You can also search many other articles to learn more about these.

Major Depressive Disorder 

Autism

Attention Deficit Hyperactivity (ADHD)

Bi-Polar Disorder

Schizophrenia

One thing you can do to help narrow down if your family has ties to mental illness is to have your therapist do a genogram for you. 

The genogram is like a family tree although much more detailed. A genogram is a pictorial display of a person’s family relationships and medical history.

 It goes beyond a traditional family tree by allowing the user to visualize hereditary patterns and psychological factors that punctuate relationships.

Is there a cure for Mental Illness?

There is no magic pill or anything proven that will allow your mental illness to magically disappear. 

So, unfortunately, there is no cure! However, you can learn more about the latest research on topics related to a cure from a simple search. There are plenty of treatment options to choose from. 

 There are also holistic methods of treatments as well as medications that work extremely well especially with certain diagnoses. 

Medication along with psychotherapy work amazingly well together. 

 Mental Health Matters!

Now a question often comes up and that is

People can’t have a “normal life” with mental illness?

You can have a normal life if you have a mental illness. 

 Whatever your definition of normal you can still have that with a mental illness. Read my blog post on how to combat mental illness. 

 You will be faced with challenges if you have a mental illness. News flash……… we all will be faced with challenges.

 You may have to work a little harder, a little longer to make sure that you have what you need to cope. 

Read more >> How to combat mental illness >>

What if my culture does not believe in treating mental illness? 

There are tons of cultures that are not so fond of mental health services.  

Not saying that you should go against your beliefs, values, or culture but mental health is a personal journey. 

 Although mental health can affect the entire family it truly is taking a step in your progress as an individual.

Have a conversation 

 Having a conversation about what you believe is right for you is very important when taking your journey. 

 You have full control of who you allow in your circle of support.

See a therapist. 

Overall deciding to see a therapist is your personal choice.

  >> Read my blog post on how to find a new therapist here.>>

Why does mental health Matter?

Mental health includes our emotional, psychological, and social well-being.

 It affects how we think, feel, and act. It also helps determine how we handle stress, relate to others, and make choices. 

Mental health is important at every stage of life, from childhood and adolescence through adulthood. 

Mental health matters because we matter.  Our lives matter, our well-being, and our choices matter.

What can I do to be a part of the change?

 We have the right to be seen and heard in the light instead of suffering in the dark.  Those who suffer from mental health deserve to be able to walk outside and not be called crazy.

  Those who suffer from mental health deserve to go ask for help without being called crazy. 

Those who suffer from mental health should not be discriminated against because they have a diagnosis. 

 Mental health matters because our mothers, brothers, fathers, sisters, nieces, nephews, cousins, uncles, aunts, grandmothers, grandfathers, and our friends matter. Make sharing your knowledge about mental health a priority. Cause your voice matters.

 The more you know the more you share. 

Your mental health is important to be sure to make it a priority!

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Final Note

Mental health should be prioritized and should be taught more often.

If you feel you’re struggling with mental health, then please consult a professional.

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• How to find a new therapist
• How to combat mental health
• What to do when you have mental health

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Key areas of self-awareness 

We’ve discussed how to find yourself as a woman in this post. 

But for today it’s gonna be all about self-awareness activities that you can do that will help you gain more awareness of who you are.

Let’s get started.

Before we start with the activities, there are some questions that I’ll need to address first.

What are the key areas of self-awareness?

There are 3 areas for self-awareness

• Values
• Personality traits 
• Habits and emotion

Here is a brief description of what each one means:

Values:

Are what drives our actions. If before you make any big decision in your life you ask your family for their opinion then this action is driven by the value of family bonding. 

Personality traits:

Personality traits are what sets you apart from any other woman.

Think of it as the activities you do daily that are a part of your personality trait. 

Habits and emotions:

As humans, that’s what we are made of habits and emotions. If everything you do leads to the desired emotion (Negative or positive) and those emotions lead to the habits we do daily. 

Once you’re aware of these self-awareness keys, it’ll be your compass to live a happy life. 

What are the three self-awareness activities that develop the self?

3 self-awareness activities can help you to develop yourself.

• Physical
• Mental 
• Emotional

Physical

Which is to do about anything physical to help you gain self-awareness.

Things such as journaling and meditation or doing yoga are a starter.

Mental

Mental self-awareness is to be aware of your thoughts and the mental chatter that goes around in your head.

This is essential to know as everything starts from there. 

You can check this podcast from Natalie Bacon on mental chatter. 

Emotional

Being aware of your emotions is a big part of developing yourself and if you fail to develop your emotion, it doesn’t matter what else you do. 

Mastering emotion can be practicing your feelings ahead of time for those big events that seem to overwhelm you. 

From what you read so far self-awareness compounds many things but they’re crucial to self-development. 

What are some examples of self-awareness?

A friend of mine sent me this list that I love. I think it would be creative of you to make your list just like this one.

You can easily just take out a sheet of paper and write down the most important things to you in life.

 Think about how you are affected by those things, and what they mean to you. There are no right or wrong answers. 

This is a great tool to begin and explore self-awareness.

Seriously…… Just give it a try!

Read more >> How to find yourself as a woman

Self-awareness examples

1. To be rich ………………………Give
2. To Succeed………………………Serve
3. To laugh……………………Make someone else laugh
4. To prosper…………………….. Be honest
5. To Excel………………………… Be faithful
6. To go far……………………….Get up early
7. To change someone……………Change yourself
8. To be great………………………………Be disciplined
9. To be strong………………………………Pray Often
10. To do a lot………………………………….Speak little
11. To be fruitful………………………………Praise God
12. To live well……………………………….Forgive
13. To talk well……………………………….Bind anger
14. To sleep well…………………………….Work Hard
15. To be loved………………………………..Love
16. To be a good husband……………………..Listen to your wife
17. To be a wife………………………………..Submit yourself
18. To be respected…………………………..Be polite
19. To bind Satan……………………………Sanctify yourself
20. To grow in faith………………………….Meditate on the word of God Always

The list can go on and on.

It’s so powerful to make yourself aware of the simple things in life.

One more thing to remember that we all have so many different things that are important to us as individuals.

 They don’t need to make sense to anyone else. To be honest, sometimes it might not make sense to you.

 The point is to gain self-awareness therefore, you can make progress. The progress will allow you to understand who you are and your purpose in life. 

This is also great for self-development.

Trust me you have a purpose..! It might take some time to unlock what that may be but you have one.

 Just think when was the last time you have actually sat in your own thoughts and answered the questions you asked yourself.

Now that you’re aware of self-awareness examples, here is how to exercise self-awareness?

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How do you exercise self-awareness?

As I wrote earlier there are 2 ways that you can exercise self-awareness.

First, physically, which is to write your thoughts in a journal.

This process is called a brain dump.

Another exercise you can do is to sit in silence and watch your thoughts come up and go. 

Either way, you should include physical and mental exercises in your self-awareness routine and make it a part of your daily life.

Final Note

Self-awareness can be the greatest tool anyone could have but not everyone is aware of it.

When you’re aware of your thoughts you have the power to change the way you live, but with cautious self-awareness, this only can happen. 

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